Lack of Progress?

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Lack of progress anywhere at work and in life feels bad not because there’s something broken but because we fear we can’t keep up or handle it.

But we can.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: No, it’s not those other people’s actions or attitudes. It’s us, the leaders.

PPS: If we pause for a minute and let the idea of growth or progress (or whatever we think is stopping our progress) just hit us, we’ll soon see that we can handle it. In fact, we can handle anything that may come up when it does and if it does.

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At Moments Like These

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Complaining about, fearing, or fighting something that we don’t like is the painful, slow way. Such focus only strengthens it.

Focusing on what we do like is similar. The more attention we give, the more it will grow.

As counterintuitive as it seems, our best way is to leave alone what we don’t like, to refuse to give it our energy, to take no notice, to render it irrelevant. And then to dedicate ourselves to building more and more of what we do want.

Powerful? Yes, we are.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Tip: shut off Constantly Negative News (CNN) and the like. Find and engage with, instead, people who are already building something wonderful in the community, city, market, country, or world.

 

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Dragon Slaying or Dragon Slaying Classes?

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We can work on ourselves until we are ready to slay dragons. Or we can go slay dragons and make dragon slaying our arena for working on ourselves.

The good news is both ways work.

The bad news is both ways can also be really good ways to chicken out. Fear can keep us out of the fray with the excuse we are not ready. We can use the excitement of the battles as an excuse to never look inside for fear of what we might find.

Ultimately, we want to be growing and succeeding, developing and in action. The way to strike this balance is to have a clear, compelling mission that is so important that we grow and act despite any fears.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Are You Tapping the Fear or the Spark?

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There is a fear within each of us. Tap it and you’ll get hurried, harried, and short-lived results. Further attempts to mine this source become ever more costly, unpredictable, and ultimately doomed.

There is a spark within each of us. Tap it and you’ll get long-lasting, wonderful results.

Of course, mining sparks is not a panacea. It requires hard work. We must throw out all the leadership tools used to tap fear. In their place we need a compelling clarity of purpose, a commitment to win-win collaboration with all involved, high-buzz thinking, and systems and approaches that support us delivering together that purpose well.

Worth it.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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When We do the Opposite of What We Really Need to Do

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Wherever we see troubles we can usually find a hidden assumption about scarcity lurking about. Out of a fear of lack or a fear for survival, we do the opposite of what we really need to do: we defend our turf or attack others. This may lead to short-lived gains but will leave us still in fear. Instead, if we collaborate, we generate better ideas that disprove the lack and create sustained security, profit, and joy.

We leaders can apply this insight in business, at home, and around the world. As soon a we see winning as “I win and you win,” or “We win and they win,” everything changes.

In your corner,

Mike

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If You Have Yet to Become Who You Thought You Would Be…

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Do the thing you fear the most and the death of fear is certain.

– Mark Twain

Because fear seems so real, we maintain all sorts of seemingly rational stories, habits, and other defenses to stop us from doing what we fear. Most of us have been working these defenses so long that they seem normal.

But fear is a humbug. A nevermind. A toothless beast.

When we do something we fear, we free ourselves to become, at last, who we’ve dreamed we would be.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Quivering Demon

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The sages tell us there are only two emotions: love and fear. What is not one is the other. This is useful because we know that fear feels bad. It distracts, detracts, and debilitates. And it is mostly self-generated and sustained.

Anything that feels bad has its roots in plain old fear. The way out is through. Facing the fear, we see it as the toothless, noisy, quivering demon that it is.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Good Leadership, Wise Business

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The sages tell us that there are only two reactions to anything: fear or love. Nothing else. So if we catch ourselves feeling bad or trying to attack, avoid, complain, or criticize anything, we are in fear.

The solution to whatever we fear is to love it. This does not mean we should accept something that is unacceptable. It means that we are to pause and wait for a better-feeling, more love-centered solution than attack, avoid, etc. (This works wonderfully well, by the way.)

At work, this looks a lot like good leadership and wise business practices.

 

In your corner,

Mike

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Proper Use of Planning

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Planning fails when we use it to control the future. Seeking to control the future comes from a distrust or fear about it. And it can’t be done.

Planning works when we use it to prepare for the future. Anticipating a desired future with quiet excitement and taking sensible preceding steps are great ways to prepare for the future.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Fear and Love

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At the base of everything we experience is fear and love. That’s it. That’s all. We are a bundled blend of these. We are heading toward more love and less fear.

Fear impels a need to control actively (make stuff happen, attack) or passively (avoid, defend). Control is silly: things are way too complex to control; and people and things don’t want to be controlled. Fear and control create resistance. Fear & control create ideas and actions that create more fear and control.

Love, on the other hand, inspires self and others to ideas and actions that work well and work well together.

The trap here is to say, “Yes, yes. I get it.” And then continue to fear something at some level. Or to say, “That’s ridiculous.” and continue to experience resistance.

Compassion for self and others is the cure for fear. Noting what feels good guides us toward love and away from fear.

 

In your corner (and with much love),

Mike

PS: Yes, of course this applies at work.

 

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