Disappointment

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When we experience a disappointment, we often tell ourselves stories to ease the blow. We may tell ourselves how the world is a struggle and how we aren’t lucky or deserving.

The problem with this, of course, is that we believe our stories.

That any avenue of exploration didn’t provide you what you wanted says nothing about your right and ability to have whatever. Not a tut.

Quietly expect what you want. Be curious about how it might show up. Allow feelings of excitement to creep in. And when you feel yourself clamping down for fear that it won’t come true, pause and think anew.

In short, tell yourself a better story.

In your corner,

Mike

It Flows Back Your Way

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Think about what you would like more of from others. Would you want a little respect? To be heard or to be given some of their time? How about honesty, openness, or withholding of judgement? Maybe it’s trust, love, or kindness? Or accommodation of your preferences every once in a while?

No matter what it is you want, there is an easy way to get it: just give it to others. Before you dismiss this as too old or trite to work, hear me out.

Things we think about enough have the funny habit of happening. It’s just another form of the observation that says we see the world as we are not as it is. When you focus on what you want and are not getting from another, you are subtly repeating to yourself, “I don’t have it.” When you give to another (it need not be to the person you want to receive the same from) something that you want, you establish for yourself the fact that you already have what you want.

Example: Say you want more dedication from your employees or more respect from your boss. Which approach will be more likely to work for you? Continuing to believe your boss or employees don’t care? Or offering more dedication to your employees and respect to your boss?

Right. Start with what you want. Give it freely and expect to see it flow back your way.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: It will.

Get What You Want

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Quick: What do you really want right now?

Good. What was the very next thought that popped into your head after you thought of something you want?

You might have hoped that what you want will happen.

You may have worried about when, how, or if it will happen.

Perhaps you thought about the things you would need to do to make it happen.

You may even have rejected the idea of having or even wanting what you want because you’d rather not experience the disappointment if it doesn’t happen.

I recommend another way. There is a state where you expect what you want will happen. In this state you are neither cocky nor pleading. It is quietly exciting.

I’ll meet you there.

In your corner,

Mike

Weird

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Here’s something weird: you get what you deep-down expect you will get. This is true for objects and outcomes.

Here’s something else that is weird: when you are used to expecting that a thing will not work out–that you will not get the object or outcome you wish,  flipping (or laddering) to the thought that it will work out can feel very weird.

Go with the “it will work out” thought anyway.

 

In your corner,

Mike