Why Not?

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What if we give all of our current projects a score? Things that we love doing, that serve us well, that have us feeling great and connected to our purpose get a 10. We give a 1 to things that we hate doing, that drain us, and that have no discernible purpose. And we give other things a score in between.

What would be your average score? 

What if you chose to work on nothing less than an 11?

After all, why not?

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: If you said something, “Yeah, but, there are some things I just hafta do…,” consider reframing it into a desired outcome. Example: “Yeah, but, I hafta do my accounting…” becomes, “I choose to do this because I love feeling on top of my finances.”

 

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Infinite Success

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To see a world in a grain of sand,
And a heaven in a wild flower,
Hold infinity in the palm of your hand,
And eternity in an hour.

from ‘Auguries of Innocence’ by William Blake

Infinity, rightly, freaks us out. For instance, there are infinitely more points between the ends of any line you can draw on your palm than there are nanometers on a line from here to the end of an infinite universe. There are infinitely more tasks that we could do or decisions we could make than we ever will have time for.  And there are infinitely more opportunities for fun and success coming our way that we could ever imagine taking advantage of.

Faced with all this infinity, we might be tempted to curl up and hide, feeling insignificant. Or we attempt to do it all. Or try to be the big cheese of own little cheese market.

But there’s a better way. We can accept infinity as the way the world works. We can revel in it all. We can delight in choosing this versus that. And in getting to choose again and again. We can use infinity as our palate, fuel source, and all-round great place to live this life.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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The Choice That Makes All The Difference

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In every endeavour, we always have two choices. We can choose to believe things could or will go wrong. Or we can choose to believe that things could or will go right.

The former puts us on the defensive or the offensive. Our efforts end up inefficient at best and could be quite destructive. The latter allows us to respond accurately in the moment and gently guide things our way.

Yes, every endeavour. Yes, it’s our choice.

In your corner,

Mike

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How To Choose Your Next Career, Project, or Strategy

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Should we go for strategy A or B? Career This or That? Project X or Y?

When we are not in our SweetSpot, the best we can do to make such choices is to build a list of pros and cons. Or maybe we can flip a coin.

When we know our SweetSpot, we can generate lots of options that would fit us fine. It won’t matter what options we take.

You see, anything that meets the criteria set out by our (personal or organizational) SweetSpot is, by definition, perfect.

 

In your corner,

Mike

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either or

So Choose

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Try being, at once, both happy and unhappy. Try being both high buzz and low buzz. Or try being both worried (or concerned) about your future and quietly excited about it.

Not possible, is it?

In fact, if we choose one, the other one  disappears immediately. See?

And, yes, we always get to choose and reap the rewards of our choice.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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A Daily Choice

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We have a choice each morning as we wake up. We can raise our buzz and commit to having a feel good day before we hop out of bed. Such a choice sets us up for a day of better solutions, helpful encounters, and more happiness.

So why wouldn’t we make this choice? Why would we choose start our day low and maintain tension, angst, politics, drama? That feels bad, right?

Maybe we just end up in a feel bad day because we’ve forgotten we have the choice.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Try making this choice every morning for one week. I think you’ll appreciate the results.

 

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Why We Are Awful at Picking What To Do Next

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Most days we waste a whack of time and energy. We struggle to figure out–and do first–the most important, urgent, due, or priority tasks. We really can’t see, amongst all the competing tasks, which are the most due-urgent-important. Attempts to rank tasks usually backfire. That calculus is too difficult. And we will always question if we shouldn’t be working on something else now.

What would happen if, instead of choosing the most urgent, the most important, the most overdue, the highest priority task, or the task we most “should” do,  we always selected the best-feeling task to do next?

Would we get into trouble? Would there be chaos? Panic in the streets? Dogs and cats living together!?

Hardly.

If we maintain a fairly current list of all the things we could do, then choose from that list the next best-feeling task, we will feel great, be quite productive, and take care of the important, urgent, due, and priority. You see, the best-feeling tasks include the truly important, urgent, due, and priority ones. No calculus needed.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Can We Have Everything?

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The cars, the houses, the career, the family, the vacations, the meaningful experiences, the titles, the accolades, the bucket list, the prestige, the money, the cottage, the degrees and certifications, the friends, the love, the fame, the good life, the perfect swing, the next iPhone? (I could go on.)

Can we have everything? No. There is simply too much. As the comedian, Stephen Wright, says, “You can’t have everything. Where would you put it?”

And having everything is so not the point. Life constantly presents us with rich possibilities…so many that we could never possibly choose them all. Our job is to choose then pursue the options that honestly feel best. And, though we may seek guidance and insight from others, only we can ever know what’s best for us to choose for ourselves.

Then we have a very full, meaningful life. All the satisfaction we want is in this choosing.

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Of course, knowing what feels good is the trick. We feel it in our bodies. We know when something truly feels good vs. when we merely think it should. We each have one or two feelings that tell us we are on the right track. For me, it’s a tingling up my back and neck.

PPS: We can even choose to have all those things listed above or not, as long as it feels good.

PPPS: Two useful, related measures of success in life: 1) What percentage of my life is chosen?  2) Is that percentage increasing over time?

Money or Meaning?

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Making all the money or doing meaningful work?

Wait. Who says that we cannot have both? They are not mutually exclusive. They do not depend on position, status, or luck. They don’t even require what most of us know as “hard work and sacrifice.”

They do require constant, conscious choice, clarity of purpose, being guided by what feels good, a commitment to win-win, and an effective, natural flow of actions.

I say go for it.

In your corner,

Mike

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Get More Done By Dropping the “Have Tos”

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Saying “no” also means no longer doing things because we have to.

Notice the kinds of things we say we have to do. Chores. Meetings. TPS reports.

The truth is, we never “have to” do anything. We can choose to do the TPS report or not. We can choose to do any task or not. This is true for all of us, all of the time. Yes, there are some things we choose to do because we dislike the consequences of not doing them.

You see, there is a world of difference between doing a task because we think we “have to” and choosing to do that same task because we prefer the outcomes of having done it.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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