Stubbornly Undone

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For anything that remains stubbornly undone, the very last place at need to look for answers is between our ears.

Our judgments and beliefs hold both wanted and unwanted situations in place with tenacity. So it makes all kind of sense to replace any attention to unwanted (including complaints, judgments, etc.) with high-buzz attention on what we do want.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Stories

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Our success mostly rests on the stories we tell ourselves about us, them, this thing, or that situation.

Unwanted results? Wanted results? What story were you (often quietly, sometimes unknowingly) telling?

Pick the best feeling stories and watch the results shift to match.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Why We Should Resist Solving Their Problems

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When people are buzzing low, they will almost always present us with problems and complaints. If we’re not careful, we’ll get drawn into the trap of trying to solve or resolve these for them. 

Why is this a trap? Because their low buzz can easily push down our buzz. They feel bad. We react. Then we struggle to improve things from a lower buzz. This is very hard to do. And if we manage it, they’ll just come back next time with another low-buzz problem.

Instead, let’s raise our buzz around them. Without trying, they will find it much easier to start buzzing higher themselves. Then their solutions and resolutions become easy.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Between the Ears

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What is the gist of the stories we tell ourselves, 24/7? Are they like these…?

“That’s just the way it is.” “I/you/they/we/those things suck.” “It’s their/my fault.” “Life is hard.” “It’s just business.”

Or like these…?

“This is good.” “I appreciate me/you/them/us/those things.” “I know things will work out well; they always do.” “Life is good.” “This is exciting.” “More of this, please.”

Why does it matter? Because the story running between our ears dictates the results we will see with our eyes.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Of course, we can tell the gist of the stories by the results. And by how, generally, we feel.

Your Most Important Work

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The signs pointing the way to happiness (and success) at work and in life are right here, in plain sight. So why do we all seem to struggle?

Though we all have seen these signs time and again (e.g. “do what you love,” “go for win-win,” or “set a compelling purpose”), we can only understand and apply them when we are feeling good, buzzing high. This is true for us as individuals and in our companies. It turns out, then, that our most important work is to raise our buzz and help others do the same.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Can Our Problems Ever Go Away?

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Nope. We will always have problems.

But we can forever change how they affect us.

When we’re feeling good, plugged in, and buzzing high, problems still arise but we see them differently than before. They shift from being things to tolerate, solve, or fight to being  opportunities to make things even better.

It’s all in how we look at it.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Happiness Is…

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Despite what we may sometimes wish, happiness does not come from wiping out our problems.

We can’t wipe them out. Like ocean waves, life is full of problems and solutions that never stop coming. We become unhappy when we see ourselves battered by these waves and needing to struggle for solutions.

But we can change our perspective. We become happy when we see ourselves surfing atop the waves, relishing them, being quietly powerful, and watching the problems getting solved.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: From atop the waves, problems become much less big and important. Often they will sort themselves out with relatively little effort from us. Good reasons to be atop the waves, yes? How to get there? By raising our buzz, of course.

 

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Nothing and No One Needs Fixing

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Where our inner game is off, it normally comes from us nursing a belief about them, us, or the situation being fundamentally broken.

These harsh judgments push us to try to control or fix what’s broken. And this generates huge resistance. It drags down our buzz, drains our batteries, and drives away those we need to work with.

A far more productive and pleasant way to go is to replace these judgments with the perspective that nothing is broken and nothing needs fixing or controlling.

Of course, we will always have problems to solve and things to improve. By tossing the idea of fundamental flaws in us, them, or the situation causing the problems, improvement becomes creative and as easy as changing our socks.

Time to get some great work done, yes?

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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The Flow is Delightful

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By doing the hard work of feeling good–despite any situation and before getting into any action–we are putting ourselves into that flow we all have glimpsed and have long sought. In this flow, we replace pushing or worrying with wonder, as in, “I know it’s going to work out. I wonder how it will?”

Exciting? Yes, indeed.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: “Is all this really possible? Can’t we talk about something more business-like? Why do you keep going on about feeling good?” Um…yes, I am, and mainly because it’s profitable.

 

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