In all conflicts, both sides contribute. Every time we get wound up by another’s behavior, we must stop to see how our reactions add to the problem. Once we see our contribution, we can change it. This does not mean that we are to capitulate, get angry, fall on our sword, or try to assign blame anywhere.
All we need to do is choose a new reaction. One good one is curiosity: “How might they respond if I no longer choose that reaction? What’s driving them and how they will proceed?”
In your corner,