Why We Don’t Fight

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Fighting what we don’t want (at home, work, or in the world-at-large) only pushes people to fight back. Our energy gets drained and our effectiveness is muted. It’s so easy to fall into this trap. But let’s not.

Let’s instead redirect the energy we would have spent fighting to building what we do want. People will then jump in and help. This way our energy multiplies and our effectiveness soars.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Yes, this works everywhere, always.

 

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Your Most Important Work

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The signs pointing the way to happiness (and success) at work and in life are right here, in plain sight. So why do we all seem to struggle?

Though we all have seen these signs time and again (e.g. “do what you love,” “go for win-win,” or “set a compelling purpose”), we can only understand and apply them when we are feeling good, buzzing high. This is true for us as individuals and in our companies. It turns out, then, that our most important work is to raise our buzz and help others do the same.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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What’s Really Possible

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We learned all about what’s possible and what’s not from the well-meaning people around us especially family, teachers, and friends. But for the most part, they didn’t know and we ended up with a limited sense of things.

Much, much more is possible than we have allowed ourselves to dream. The wiser part of us knows this and knows what to do next about it.

Go within.

 

In your corner,

Mike

Can Our Problems Ever Go Away?

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Nope. We will always have problems.

But we can forever change how they affect us.

When we’re feeling good, plugged in, and buzzing high, problems still arise but we see them differently than before. They shift from being things to tolerate, solve, or fight to being  opportunities to make things even better.

It’s all in how we look at it.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Happiness Is…

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Despite what we may sometimes wish, happiness does not come from wiping out our problems.

We can’t wipe them out. Like ocean waves, life is full of problems and solutions that never stop coming. We become unhappy when we see ourselves battered by these waves and needing to struggle for solutions.

But we can change our perspective. We become happy when we see ourselves surfing atop the waves, relishing them, being quietly powerful, and watching the problems getting solved.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: From atop the waves, problems become much less big and important. Often they will sort themselves out with relatively little effort from us. Good reasons to be atop the waves, yes? How to get there? By raising our buzz, of course.

 

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Nothing and No One Needs Fixing

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Where our inner game is off, it normally comes from us nursing a belief about them, us, or the situation being fundamentally broken.

These harsh judgments push us to try to control or fix what’s broken. And this generates huge resistance. It drags down our buzz, drains our batteries, and drives away those we need to work with.

A far more productive and pleasant way to go is to replace these judgments with the perspective that nothing is broken and nothing needs fixing or controlling.

Of course, we will always have problems to solve and things to improve. By tossing the idea of fundamental flaws in us, them, or the situation causing the problems, improvement becomes creative and as easy as changing our socks.

Time to get some great work done, yes?

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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When to Start, Leap, Go

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With a sense of what we want, why we want it, and an excited expectation of it unfolding in front of us, we can launch anything, right now.

With a sense of doubt, it’s best to raise our buzz until we’ve reached that excited expectation.

The worst possible time to start is when we have doubts that we mask with false optimism. «Shudder»

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Emotions Aren’t What You Think They Are

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Much (…most…all?) of success at work is our head game. Just as athletes can win or lose based on what’s going on inside, our emotions strongly influence our success in business and life. We see how negative emotions damage our (work) game and positive emotions propel us to success.

We usually think of our (negative) emotions as some integral (and usually flawed) aspect of our personalities. But a more productive view is that our emotions are just indicators. They tell us how in sync are we with the wiser part inside all of us.

That wiser part figures out life faster than the part of us we’re used to identifying with. As we ponder or struggle, it leaps to a more helpful way of thinking about things. So there can be a gap between how we’re seeing things and how our wiser selves are seeing the same things. The greater the gap, the worse we feel. The smaller the gap, the better we feel.

Why bother with this alternative definition of emotions? Because getting in sync with our wiser selves is a much faster path to success. Traditionally, we try to understand, fix, tame, trample, explain, or avoid our negative emotions. Like running in quicksand, these approaches can take a very long time because focusing on (including avoiding) negative emotions tends to perpetuate and generate even more negative emotions.

Learning to pause and understand that wiser part of ourselves is simpler and faster. It may take some time to get familiar with and trust that part of ourselves. And as we do, the business- and life solutions we need come faster as our negative emotions necessarily subside.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Think of emotions as the wiser part tapping on our shoulders.

PPS: Yes, of course you have a wiser part of you. It is the perspective shift that you notice as you do this exercise.

PPPS: Simply noticing negative and positive emotion is a good first step in finding our wiser selves.

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