Still Complaining?

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Complaint can never, ever solve whatever we are complaining about because it keeps us focused on what we don’t want. And so the solutions we need stay out of our reach.

Instead of complaining, we can choose to focus on what we want. This puts us right in the path of the solutions, connections, and other good ideas we need to get what we want.

Focus less on what is wrong now. Instead, use the things you don’t want as a jumping off point. From there focus much more, good leader, on what you want to become true.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Who’s Listening?

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You know that narrator in your head? It’s the voice that seems to put all the thoughts into words.

Pause, please, and consider. When that narrator speaks, who is listening? Hint: it’s not the narrator.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: If the realization of who is listening hasn’t fairly well blown your mind, go back and try again.

PPS: When you see it, this perspective provides clarity and power. Meditation fosters more regular contact with this perspective.

PPPS: A bit esoteric today? Perhaps. Keep looking for the perspective, nonetheless.

 

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The Art of Telling Things as You Want Them To Be

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We can spend our time telling (ourselves and others) stories how and why things are the way they are. Or we can spend our time telling ourselves (others will find out soon enough) stories about things working out as desired even though we’re not sure how they will.

Which will get us closer to our goal?

Right. Toss the habit of describing things as they are and pick up the habit of telling things as you want them to be.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: The trick is to tell a story that uses general-enough statements that you can believe. For example, don’t say, “That won’t work because of this obstacle, that person, or this flaw” or, “I am going to do this detail, that strategy, and this other thing to make it happen.” Instead say general things you already believe. This might include, “I’m not sure how it will work out. I don’t need to know right now. It works out for others, so it must be possible. I’ve been in situations like this before and it worked out. You know, people really do enjoy being part of something successful like this. I bet there are lots of people who will jump in to help me. It’s okay. I can handle anything that might happen. I’ve got this. I feel better already. It will be fun to see how it works out.”

 

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We Get What We Expect

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Maybe this sounds silly, trite, or just plain wrong. Yet we see daily reminders of how reality generally matches what we expect. A quick look back at our thoughts and beliefs about a subject shows that they match current results.

If we agree that we get what we expect, why don’t we simply choose to expect more things to work out, more good results, more fun and profit?

Because it hasn’t always worked out. We have told ourselves things like, “I expect to get that promotion, make that sale, or get that grade.” And we have been disappointed.

But if we look closely, we’ll see what’s really going on. Though we had said we expected something positive, we were really focused on something opposite. Though, for example, we might be saying, ” I am going to land that job,” we often believe deep down that we won’t. We can’t expect to paste over our negative thinking and get what we want. We can tell we are pasting over because it feels bad.

The trick, then, is to find any way to raise our buzz and feel good about our expectations.

Then, yes, we can one again start expecting all sorts of good things to happen

 

In your corner,

Mike

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Inspirational Fail

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Inspirational posters and Instagram posts typically fail us. That’s because wise words do not transmit wisdom, they only coax us toward wisdom if we’re ready.  Unless we’re buzzing high enough, we will hear or read wise things and miss the importance or, worse, totally misinterpret the meaning.

This means we need to raise our buzz to understand and use wisdom.

And it means we cannot expect others to change just because we’ve laid out the logic, made the case, showed the way, or otherwise implored them. We can, however, influence them by raising our buzz, leading by the example of our behavior, learning what makes a win for them, and connecting our wins to theirs.

Be wise, good leader.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Stubbornly Undone

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For anything that remains stubbornly undone, the very last place at need to look for answers is between our ears.

Our judgments and beliefs hold both wanted and unwanted situations in place with tenacity. So it makes all kind of sense to replace any attention to unwanted (including complaints, judgments, etc.) with high-buzz attention on what we do want.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Too Many Long Hours is a Symptom

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When we see an organization of good, caring people working hard, long hours, it’s often a symptom: there isn’t enough clarity. 

If we all aren’t clear on our goals, roles, accountability, and permission to collaborate, important decisions aren’t made or agreed to. Then lots of stuff falls through the cracks. And the good, caring people are left to pick up the pieces.

Happens all the time but it doesn’t need to.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Stress and Acceptance

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Stress is the difference between the way things are and the way we think they should be.

To have less stress, we merely accept as true what is true.

Right?

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: That does not mean we have to like or approve of what’s true. We may want to change things. But until we let go of the cause of the stress, we’ll have a tough time making any changes.

 

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Stories

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Our success mostly rests on the stories we tell ourselves about us, them, this thing, or that situation.

Unwanted results? Wanted results? What story were you (often quietly, sometimes unknowingly) telling?

Pick the best feeling stories and watch the results shift to match.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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