Paper Tiger

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Cognitive dissonance unconsciously drives us to twist things to match our beliefs about ourselves, each other, the situation, and the world. We are all subject to it.

Yet every day, we take in all sorts of new and vital information. Some of it will trigger our cognitive dissonance. To get the benefit of this information, we need to catch and watch as it happens the discomfort that cognitive dissonance causes. We will soon see that cognitive dissonance is a paper tiger: we’re fine, this new information won’t hurt, it will help.

Think of this next time someone gives you information (facts, insights, opinions, feedback) that you don’t agree with.

 

In your corner,
Mike

Direct Your Thinking

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Too often, we let ourselves to be pulled and pushed by the events and circumstances we see around us, especially if–whether small or big–they are not what we want. This mode of life feels awful, drains us, and perpetuates those events and circumstances.

Here’s something much better: direct your attention so that your attitude, approach, and thinking point you toward what you want. Take the time to find and focus on the appreciated, the wanted, the good. Trust me, it’s there, everywhere. You will see it as you start to direct your focus away from the crap and toward the good stuff.

 

In your corner,

Mike

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Comfort Is Overrated

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The warning signs at the edges of our comfort zone tell us to stop, go back, stay safe. Our comfort zone will even make up seemingly valid justifications for staying in the zone.

Of course, to do something we’ve never done, we have to leave our comfort zone. But first we must catch our justifications. Next we remind ourselves why the Something New is more helpful than the comfort and why staying in the zone is worse than the discomfort of stepping out.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: We can also gather motivation by remembering how great it feels to finally step out.

 

Slow Start

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Why not start today slowly? Before diving into email, calls, or meetings, try sitting quietly for a minute (or three), breathing deeply slowly. Then notice the contrast.

My guess? It’ll be rewarding enough to repeat tomorrow.

 

In your corner,

Mike

Put On Your Mask First

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That people around us are struggling, blaming, deflecting, or otherwise full of drama does not mean that we need to do the same.

You see, no amount of us struggling, etc. can ever help them. If we’re down, we can’t help them. Only when we are plugged in, feeling good can we ever have the energy, ideas, and resources to help them.

Put on your mask first, good leader, then help.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

Today’s image courtesy of K. Todd Storch

How To Do What’s Hanging Over You

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You know that thing you need to do? The one that’s uncomfortable and hanging over you?

We intellectually know that things will be better when we finally just do it. But how to get past the FUDWARG (fear, uncertainty, doubt, worry, anger, regret, guilt) that makes it uncomfortable and stalls or stops us?

One good way: focus on why this thing you need to do is valuable. Consider in rich detail how it’s in line with what you value, how it will generate all sorts of benefits, and how much better it will feel when it’s not hanging over your head. Focus long enough so that the reasons why far outweigh the FUDWARG.

Then, feeling so much better, do it.

 

In your corner,

Mike

Who Says?

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It will be hard. Who says?

It won’t work. Who says?

It will be a long shot. Who says?

I can’t. I don’t know how. I don’t think I can. Who says?

It’ll work out. It always does. I don’t know how but I bet it’ll happen soon. I’m kinda lucky that way. Who says?

The truth? You say. And what you say has a very strange way of happening. 

So, what do you say?

 

In your corner,

Mike

I Suck at…

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…is always a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Let’s catch and replace thoughts like this with thoughts like, “I may not know how to do this yet, but I can learn. I can get started with what I know and g(r)o(w) from there.”

Here’s to working our inner games and helping others do the same.

 

In your corner,

Mike

Today’s photo courtesy of Tumisu.