The Art of Telling Things as You Want Them To Be

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We can spend our time telling (ourselves and others) stories how and why things are the way they are. Or we can spend our time telling ourselves (others will find out soon enough) stories about things working out as desired even though we’re not sure how they will.

Which will get us closer to our goal?

Right. Toss the habit of describing things as they are and pick up the habit of telling things as you want them to be.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: The trick is to tell a story that uses general-enough statements that you can believe. For example, don’t say, “That won’t work because of this obstacle, that person, or this flaw” or, “I am going to do this detail, that strategy, and this other thing to make it happen.” Instead say general things you already believe. This might include, “I’m not sure how it will work out. I don’t need to know right now. It works out for others, so it must be possible. I’ve been in situations like this before and it worked out. You know, people really do enjoy being part of something successful like this. I bet there are lots of people who will jump in to help me. It’s okay. I can handle anything that might happen. I’ve got this. I feel better already. It will be fun to see how it works out.”

 

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We Always Have Choices

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When faced with adversity at work, we have three choices. We can leave, we can stay and help change the offending things, or we can stay and change how we respond to those things so that they no longer offend.

All three options are possible. All will work and create more freedom, happiness, and growth. All have pros and cons. And all require heavy emotional lifting. Choosing one doesn’t always preclude choosing the others later.

Which we choose depends on which sort of lifting and outcomes we’d like to try.

Despite what we may think, we have choices.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: There are, of course, two other options. We can shut up, put our heads down, suck it up, and take it. Or we can complain, revolt, or otherwise decry our fate. But these fail to deliver any freedom, happiness, or growth. So, yuck, right?

 

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A Deep Insight

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It can look like complaint, frustration, withdrawal, fear, defensiveness, anger, worry, guilt, pushing, or avoiding. No matter. If anything has led you to believe that you are separate, above, below, isolated, or disconnected from any and all others, please–please–look again.

The deep-down insight here is that, despite appearances, all of us are intimately connected. We are not only all in this together, we are all this together.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: And, despite appearances, we each can experience this deep-down insight first-hand. It usually sneaks up on us and feels a-bit-scary-a-lot-wonderful.

PPS: When we get this, business and life flows so much better.

PPPS: And then we unleash all that creativity, fun, and success we’ve suspected was always there.

PPPPS: Too vague? Too esoteric? Yah, that happens.  A tip: pretend “we are one” is true and see what happens.

PPPPPS: A big part of our job as leaders is to hold this open for others to get, too.

 

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Your Most Important Work

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The signs pointing the way to happiness (and success) at work and in life are right here, in plain sight. So why do we all seem to struggle?

Though we all have seen these signs time and again (e.g. “do what you love,” “go for win-win,” or “set a compelling purpose”), we can only understand and apply them when we are feeling good, buzzing high. This is true for us as individuals and in our companies. It turns out, then, that our most important work is to raise our buzz and help others do the same.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Can Our Problems Ever Go Away?

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Nope. We will always have problems.

But we can forever change how they affect us.

When we’re feeling good, plugged in, and buzzing high, problems still arise but we see them differently than before. They shift from being things to tolerate, solve, or fight to being  opportunities to make things even better.

It’s all in how we look at it.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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This Changes Everything

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Two simple thoughts cause most of the pain and dysfunction we see around us. They are, “We are separate,” and, “There is not enough.”

Consider what would happen if people started believing the opposite: “We are one,” and, “There is more than enough.” How would our own lives change? How would all the nasty, divisive, and fearful politics change? What would become of all the injustices? How much better would our companies and institutions run?  What about rage, war, hunger, poverty, and violence?

Would everyone believing in our unity and abundance solve all the problems? Is it even true that we are one and abundant? Perhaps not. But which is more likely to solve our problems, big and small: believing in our isolation and lack or believing in our unity and abundance?

Right. Good. Off you go. Be this change.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Make no mistake: I advocate no political perspectives. To date, all political approaches have spawned from the thoughts of separation and lack. Just read headlines and history to see it.

 

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That Successful 

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Measuring up, beating the other guy, and doing what we’re supposed to do are sad substitutes for success. What really gets us there are creativity, win-win, and doing what we are.

Our world desperately needs you to be that successful.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Chasing

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Hyper, unexamined, superhuman, the need to keep up, and racing to it. Not the product of a strategic decision but an unexamined ramping up of idiocy. This is what many of us mistake for success.

Success really is loving and spending time and attention on what we love.

What do you love?

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: It’s fine if what you love is what you had been chasing. Just ease back to loving it and watch it come closer of its own accord. Never a need to chase.

 

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Success Is a Way, Not a Goal

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The sages tell us to have goals but not attach to them. They warn us that having too much focus on our goals comes from some subtle belief that achieving goals is difficult or impossible. That subtle belief promotes a struggle-laced busyness which makes goals difficult or impossible to achieve. But what to do instead?

People who are successful have learned that success is a way, not a goal. They achieve goals by being successful. That is they set clear and compelling goals, they choose to go win-win-or-don’t-play with everyone, they maintain a high-buzz attitude, and they deftly select the best things to get done. They don’t stress or struggle. And their goals mostly come to fruition.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: If you catch yourself thinking something like, “When I have this, then I’ll be successful” or “I need that to be successful, happy, free, etc.,” think again.

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