No Psychology Required

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We can get into trouble trying to analyze people whose behaviors confound us. We humans are complex; even the experts stumble trying to figure out people’s personalities. More important: the more we focus on what (we think) is wrong with them, the more they will get stuck there.

To get people unstuck, let’s instead take small steps, focus on desired behavior, and express our belief in their ability to improve.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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In a World…

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In a world where most people think of themselves as their thoughts and feelings, we who regularly connect with the wiser part of ourselves become natural leaders. We need not hold any positions or titles. We don’t try to do anything special. We do watch our buzz levels. Then calm and inspiration just sorta happen.

Weird, ya?

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Delegation Economics

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When choosing whether to do something ourselves or to give it to a keen but possibly inexpert team member, we’re almost always better off it we err towards them doing it. Once they learn, we are free to tackle the valuable things that we couldn’t get to because we were busy doing their stuff.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Stated Simply 

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Criticize to hold people in place. Encourage to help them grow.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Proof of the above is left to you to compare with your own experience.

PPS: There’s a huge difference between criticizing and noting something that’s not up to par. The former always generates further dysfunction. The latter is necessary and opens the door to better performance and satisfaction.

 

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Help Me to Help You

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To encourage someone to improve, let’s ask for their help.

First, we make it clear why it’s important to us. Next, we acknowledge how difficult the current situation must be for them. (Example: “It’s gotta be stressful to deal with all the blowback when you miss a deadline.”) Then we help them explore why they–for strictly their own reasons–might want to change. Once they are on board, we can talk about how they might go about improving and how we might help.

Far better than hoping, ignoring, and demanding, ya?

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Is Your Company a Club or a Prison?

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(Spoiler: neither is good.)

We can limit the health and growth of our companies by treating them like a club or like a prison. In a club, things are fun and free but very little is structured, communication is strictly informal, and behavior norms match those of the leader–quirks and all. Growth stops because we can’t act much outside the leader’s personal scope.

In a prison (or any strict bureaucracy), fun and free are not valued. Everything is systematized, communication is strictly formal, and behavior norms reflect everyone’s fear of things getting screwed up. The organization can act beyond the personal scope of the leader. But growth still stops here because we can’t change to match what we and our clients need, want, and desire.

As our organizations grow, we can add just the right amount of structure and while promoting happiness, growth, and freedom for us, our clients, and our partners. Our job as leaders is to find that balancing point. We can tell it’s working because all who matter are happy and we are growing revenue, profit, and/or impact.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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The Value of Value

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Hire this person who has the experience or wait to find someone who fits our culture? Discount out of fear that this client will leave or hold out for clients who appreciate and pay for our value?

If we make decisions for expediency and against our values, we give away the value of our values.

Right?

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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What’s Really Possible

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We learned all about what’s possible and what’s not from the well-meaning people around us especially family, teachers, and friends. But for the most part, they didn’t know and we ended up with a limited sense of things.

Much, much more is possible than we have allowed ourselves to dream. The wiser part of us knows this and knows what to do next about it.

Go within.

 

In your corner,

Mike

Choose to Encourage

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Encouragement works far better than criticism or, said euphemistically, “feedback.” Criticism causes resistance. Encouragement opens. It is the wiser, more capable part of us reminding them of their wiser, more capable part of themselves.

Try it and watch them shine.

 

In your corner,

Mike