Between the Ears

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Reading time: 1 min.What is the gist of the stories we tell ourselves, 24/7? Are they like these…? “That’s just the way it is.” “I/you/they/we/those things suck.” “It’s their/my fault.” “Life is hard.” “It’s just business.” Or like these…? “This is good.” “I appreciate me/you/them/us/those things.” “I know things will work out well; they always do.” “Life is […]

In a World…

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Reading time: 1 min.In a world where most people think of themselves as their thoughts and feelings, we who regularly connect with the wiser part of ourselves become natural leaders. We need not hold any positions or titles. We don’t try to do anything special. We do watch our buzz levels. Then calm and inspiration just sorta happen. […]

Delegation Economics

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Reading time: 1 min.When choosing whether to do something ourselves or to give it to a keen but possibly inexpert team member, we’re almost always better off it we err towards them doing it. Once they learn, we are free to tackle the valuable things that we couldn’t get to because we were busy doing their stuff.   […]

Welcome to Monday

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Reading time: 1 min.We can avoid much angst and subsequent poor results (action taken while feeling bad always hampers results) by simply pausing for a walk outside, petting a dog, or taking three deep breaths. Ahh. Welcome to Monday.   In your corner, Mike   Today’s photo credit: chrisinplymouth Welcome via photopin (license)

Stated Simply 

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Reading time: 1 min.Criticize to hold people in place. Encourage to help them grow.   In your corner, Mike PS: Proof of the above is left to you to compare with your own experience. PPS: There’s a huge difference between criticizing and noting something that’s not up to par. The former always generates further dysfunction. The latter is […]

Help Me to Help You

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Reading time: 1 min.To encourage someone to improve, let’s ask for their help. First, we make it clear why it’s important to us. Next, we acknowledge how difficult the current situation must be for them. (Example: “It’s gotta be stressful to deal with all the blowback when you miss a deadline.”) Then we help them explore why they–for […]

Replace Worry

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Reading time: 1 min.What would happen if we replaced worry or concern with trust that it will all work out? Some might fear nothing would every get done. But that’s not true. In “trust that it’s working out” mode, we still think, analyze, plan, and act. We just stop thinking and doing the stuff that generates turbulence, resistance, […]

Why We Don’t Fight

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Reading time: 1 min.Fighting what we don’t want (at home, work, or in the world-at-large) only pushes people to fight back. Our energy gets drained and our effectiveness is muted. It’s so easy to fall into this trap. But let’s not. Let’s instead redirect the energy we would have spent fighting to building what we do want. People […]

What He Said

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Reading time: 1 min.If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment. -Marcus Aurelius   Indeed.   In your corner, Mike Today’s photo credit: mkooiman Marcus Aurelius via photopin (license)

Is Your Company a Club or a Prison?

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Reading time: 2 min.(Spoiler: neither is good.) We can limit the health and growth of our companies by treating them like a club or like a prison. In a club, things are fun and free but very little is structured, communication is strictly informal, and behavior norms match those of the leader–quirks and all. Growth stops because we […]