Co-misery

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The word commiserate comes from Latin: “Com-” meaning with + “miserari” meaning to lament (from “miser” which means wretched). We have a habit of commiserating. We respond to others’ disconnected, low-buzz state by disconnecting ourselves. When someone is miserable, we join them. If we don’t, they get more miserable. If we do, then we are […]

Paper Tiger

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Cognitive dissonance unconsciously drives us to twist things to match our beliefs about ourselves, each other, the situation, and the world. We are all subject to it. Yet every day, we take in all sorts of new and vital information. Some of it will trigger our cognitive dissonance. To get the benefit of this information, […]

Buzzzzz Up a Little

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When our buzz is low, we can’t leap to the high buzz we want. Frustrated to Elated, for example, is too big of a jump. But we can raise our buzz to something slightly better. Take three deep breaths then ask, “What’s a thought that feels slightly better than this?”In less than a minute you’ll […]

Hate, Anger, Blame

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If we react to what we see happening around us with hate, anger, or blame (no matter how righteous), we will only prolong what we’re seeing. Hate them and they dig in, raise their defenses, and entrench in their ways. Love them and they will transform before your eyes.   In your corner, Mike

Generate Results in Meetings

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We might push, posture, protect, or prattle to get results in a meeting. Or we can let go, listen, learn, and lean in. Which aprroach is more likely to generate results that last beyond the end of the meeting? Right. In your corner, Mike P.S. And love. P.P.S. Which approach is more enjoyable, more likely […]