Still Complaining?

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Complaint can never, ever solve whatever we are complaining about because it keeps us focused on what we don’t want. And so the solutions we need stay out of our reach.

Instead of complaining, we can choose to focus on what we want. This puts us right in the path of the solutions, connections, and other good ideas we need to get what we want.

Focus less on what is wrong now. Instead, use the things you don’t want as a jumping off point. From there focus much more, good leader, on what you want to become true.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Getting People Ready to Listen

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Having difficulty getting others to see your point of view? Start by demonstrating that you understand theirs.

Having difficulty demonstrating that you understand their point of view? Start by asking them about it.

When people know you have understood them, they quite naturally open to understanding you.

 

In your corner,

Mike

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Who’s Listening?

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You know that narrator in your head? It’s the voice that seems to put all the thoughts into words.

Pause, please, and consider. When that narrator speaks, who is listening? Hint: it’s not the narrator.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: If the realization of who is listening hasn’t fairly well blown your mind, go back and try again.

PPS: When you see it, this perspective provides clarity and power. Meditation fosters more regular contact with this perspective.

PPPS: A bit esoteric today? Perhaps. Keep looking for the perspective, nonetheless.

 

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Vulnerable Leader

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Lack of vulnerability, often taking the form of puffery, aloofness, or bullying, demonstrates lack of strength. Vulnerability requires and is strength.

But why do we need to be strong and vulnerable? Because, except under clear and present emergencies, people follow us to the extent we share our vulnerabilities.

 

In your corner,

Mike

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The Art of Telling Things as You Want Them To Be

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We can spend our time telling (ourselves and others) stories how and why things are the way they are. Or we can spend our time telling ourselves (others will find out soon enough) stories about things working out as desired even though we’re not sure how they will.

Which will get us closer to our goal?

Right. Toss the habit of describing things as they are and pick up the habit of telling things as you want them to be.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: The trick is to tell a story that uses general-enough statements that you can believe. For example, don’t say, “That won’t work because of this obstacle, that person, or this flaw” or, “I am going to do this detail, that strategy, and this other thing to make it happen.” Instead say general things you already believe. This might include, “I’m not sure how it will work out. I don’t need to know right now. It works out for others, so it must be possible. I’ve been in situations like this before and it worked out. You know, people really do enjoy being part of something successful like this. I bet there are lots of people who will jump in to help me. It’s okay. I can handle anything that might happen. I’ve got this. I feel better already. It will be fun to see how it works out.”

 

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The Wise Leaders’ Way to Sustained Happiness, Growth, and Freedom

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It’s not market share, innovation, or strategy. It’s not earning per share, EBITDA, or another round of funding. It’s also not left-wing, right-wing, or centrist policies. Though it sounds like Sunday school treacle, we wise leaders know the way to sustained happiness, growth, and freedom. It is to help others achieve sustained happiness, growth, and freedom.

Simple.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: We know it because we’ve experienced the joy and profit of helping others be in any way more joyful and more profitable. If you haven’t yet, trust and try it.

 

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Jellyfish or Jackhammer?

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We can act in response to what we think are other people’s judgments of us. (Yuck.) Or we can act according to what we want. (Lonely.)

Success at work happens when we do the later in service of other people, specifically other people whose problems and opportunities we find compelling.

Both. And.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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We Get What We Expect

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Maybe this sounds silly, trite, or just plain wrong. Yet we see daily reminders of how reality generally matches what we expect. A quick look back at our thoughts and beliefs about a subject shows that they match current results.

If we agree that we get what we expect, why don’t we simply choose to expect more things to work out, more good results, more fun and profit?

Because it hasn’t always worked out. We have told ourselves things like, “I expect to get that promotion, make that sale, or get that grade.” And we have been disappointed.

But if we look closely, we’ll see what’s really going on. Though we had said we expected something positive, we were really focused on something opposite. Though, for example, we might be saying, ” I am going to land that job,” we often believe deep down that we won’t. We can’t expect to paste over our negative thinking and get what we want. We can tell we are pasting over because it feels bad.

The trick, then, is to find any way to raise our buzz and feel good about our expectations.

Then, yes, we can one again start expecting all sorts of good things to happen

 

In your corner,

Mike

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