Freedom From Isn’t Freedom

Posted Leave a commentPosted in Leading
Reading time: 1

We all always want to be happy, growing, and free. We can think about freedom in two ways. There’s freedom from the things that bug us, stop us, or threaten us. Then there is freedom.

The difference is in how these two ideas feel. When we think about things we want freedom from, we are focused on what we don’t want. And that feels bad. When we think about why we want the freedom we want and how having that freedom would feel, we feel great.

Which way of thinking about freedom will get us closer to what we want?

Right!

 

In your corner,
Mike


Paper Tiger

Posted Leave a commentPosted in Leading, Will=Our inner game
Reading time: 1

Cognitive dissonance unconsciously drives us to twist things to match our beliefs about ourselves, each other, the situation, and the world. We are all subject to it.

Yet every day, we take in all sorts of new and vital information. Some of it will trigger our cognitive dissonance. To get the benefit of this information, we need to catch and watch as it happens the discomfort that cognitive dissonance causes. We will soon see that cognitive dissonance is a paper tiger: we’re fine, this new information won’t hurt, it will help.

Think of this next time someone gives you information (facts, insights, opinions, feedback) that you don’t agree with.

 

In your corner,
Mike

Buzzzzz Up a Little

Posted Leave a commentPosted in Leading
Reading time: 1

When our buzz is low, we can’t leap to the high buzz we want. Frustrated to Elated, for example, is too big of a jump. But we can raise our buzz to something slightly better.

Take three deep breaths then ask, “What’s a thought that feels slightly better than this?”
In less than a minute you’ll shift. Then do it again or go about your day.

 

In your corner,
Mike

Hate, Anger, Blame

Posted Leave a commentPosted in Leading
Reading time: 1

If we react to what we see happening around us with hate, anger, or blame (no matter how righteous), we will only prolong what we’re seeing.

Hate them and they dig in, raise their defenses, and entrench in their ways.

Love them and they will transform before your eyes.

 

In your corner,

Mike

Generate Results in Meetings

Posted Leave a commentPosted in Leading
Reading time: 1

We might push, posture, protect, or prattle to get results in a meeting. Or we can let go, listen, learn, and lean in.

Which aprroach is more likely to generate results that last beyond the end of the meeting?

Right.

In your corner,

Mike

P.S. And love.

P.P.S. Which approach is more enjoyable, more likely to make meetings something people look forward to not dread?

Pump

Posted Leave a commentPosted in Leading
Reading time: 1

Destructive leadership rations energy. Productive leadership pumps energy into everyone freely.

To share so much, we first have to find and tap for ourselves a virtually unlimited source. And where will find such a source? It’s right here and it’s called appreciation.

 

In your corner,

Mike

Don’t Look Back

Posted Leave a commentPosted in Leading
Reading time: 1

The sages tell us that all our power is in the present. Any time we spend regretting, blaming, or trying to figure out stuff in the past will more likely distract us than help us. Don’t worry about repeating mistakes. We’ve already learned what we could.

Set it aside. The future’s calling.

 

In your corner,

Mike

photo credit: Octubres rotos Wild via photopin (license)

We Have the Tools

Posted Leave a commentPosted in Leading
Reading time: 1

The way out of this mess is not argument, denial, criticism, or righteousness. That only stirs up their defenses and prolongs the pain.

We need to use the other tools–the ones we may have forgotten about: seeing us as all in this together, believing in them and their goodness more than they do, listening, and going for win-win.

We’ve got this.

 

In your corner,

Mike

photo credit: 10b travelling / Carsten ten Brink Bante tools via photopin (license)