Comfort Is Overrated

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The warning signs at the edges of our comfort zone tell us to stop, go back, stay safe. Our comfort zone will even make up seemingly valid justifications for staying in the zone.

Of course, to do something we’ve never done, we have to leave our comfort zone. But first we must catch our justifications. Next we remind ourselves why the Something New is more helpful than the comfort and why staying in the zone is worse than the discomfort of stepping out.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: We can also gather motivation by remembering how great it feels to finally step out.

 

It Only Takes One

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It only takes one person to rise above the drama. It only takes one person to remember the big picture. It only takes one person to commit to the (thus far) impossible. It only takes one person to know that it will all work out better than expected.

It only takes one person because when they do, others notice and follow suit.

Why not let it be you today?

 

In your corner,

Mike

Slow Start

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Why not start today slowly? Before diving into email, calls, or meetings, try sitting quietly for a minute (or three), breathing deeply slowly. Then notice the contrast.

My guess? It’ll be rewarding enough to repeat tomorrow.

 

In your corner,

Mike

The Expedient Route Often Isn’t

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Things done under pressure often backfire. That person we urgently needed to hire, the deal we really needed to make, and the strategy we didn’t have time to test are classic examples of the pressure-filled decisions that go on to cause much more trouble than they were meant to prevent.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: But delaying decisions isn’t helpful either. Figure out what’s true now, what you want to be true, and why. Then decide and do the very next step and repeat until done.

Put On Your Mask First

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That people around us are struggling, blaming, deflecting, or otherwise full of drama does not mean that we need to do the same.

You see, no amount of us struggling, etc. can ever help them. If we’re down, we can’t help them. Only when we are plugged in, feeling good can we ever have the energy, ideas, and resources to help them.

Put on your mask first, good leader, then help.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

Today’s image courtesy of K. Todd Storch

How To Do What’s Hanging Over You

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You know that thing you need to do? The one that’s uncomfortable and hanging over you?

We intellectually know that things will be better when we finally just do it. But how to get past the FUDWARG (fear, uncertainty, doubt, worry, anger, regret, guilt) that makes it uncomfortable and stalls or stops us?

One good way: focus on why this thing you need to do is valuable. Consider in rich detail how it’s in line with what you value, how it will generate all sorts of benefits, and how much better it will feel when it’s not hanging over your head. Focus long enough so that the reasons why far outweigh the FUDWARG.

Then, feeling so much better, do it.

 

In your corner,

Mike

Who Says?

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It will be hard. Who says?

It won’t work. Who says?

It will be a long shot. Who says?

I can’t. I don’t know how. I don’t think I can. Who says?

It’ll work out. It always does. I don’t know how but I bet it’ll happen soon. I’m kinda lucky that way. Who says?

The truth? You say. And what you say has a very strange way of happening. 

So, what do you say?

 

In your corner,

Mike

Why Can’t They Just Do What I Tell Them?

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Because they (and you and I) are wired to seek delight, growth, and freedom. How is doing what we say they should do at all in line with that wiring?

“But we’re paying them to do their jobs. Isn’t that good enough?” we might ask.

All the evidence says, “Nope. Certainly not these days.” And it’s not just the Millennials.

So we have to go for win-win. We have to include what they want in what we want.

How? Luckily, it’s not as daunting as it might seem. More on that tomorrow.

For now, try this exercise: how many times today did you ask your team, colleagues, boss, and clients to do something you wanted (needed, hoped for) them to do? And how many times did you listen to what–however large or small–they wanted, needed, or desired?

 

In your corner,

Mike

That Impulse to Help

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At least once today, we each will see someone with a need that we can very easily fill. We will know instantly what they need and what we should do. It will be something on the order of a small kindness: a smile, an encouragement, a caution, an answer, a small favor, an acknowledgement.

But our histories and habits will stop us. To avoid some perceived threat (there are many and they follow what is for each of us a familiar pattern) in the situation, we will override our impulse and not follow through with the help.

The good news is that we are neither our histories nor our habits. We can catch those impulses to help and pause. We can then see that following through on these impulses is not a threat but a joy. And we will soon learn that regularly following through is an investment that pays us back again and again.

 

In your corner,

Mike

Make the Call

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For the most part, we will benefit by making the decision then making that right rather than hemming and hawing to make the right decision.

Make the call, good leader.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Making a decision right means committing to it and following through with deep confidence (not hyperbole or bravado) that you’re on (or even making) the right path.